Why? Why? Why? Does it have to be this way?! I am so sick of men (of certain ethnic origins) talking down to me, ignoring me, treating me like I'm the one being unreasonable - just because I have tits. If you move to Canada please understand that while some women suck at being assertive, ALL women here have the same rights as a man. That includes the right to stand up for themselves!!
My landlord is an ass. He let smokers move in downstairs - AGAIN. They have just moved yet another male in the house who smokes. I went down there a few minutes ago to ask him to take his cigarette to the alley as per the landlords rules. He seemed to think I was being a hysterical female (his English isn't great) and started to yell at me. At that moment the Landlord came by & spoke to the guy, reiterating that he told the wife the rules....They guy pushed & pushed, but the landlord remained firm, smoke all you want IN THE ALLEY, but he agreed that I am a 'troublemaker'.
REALLY?! You dumb fuck, we both know that if I were a man there would NEVER had been any issues at all with my insistence about this...I can tell by the looks and slight sneer that it's all because I have tits and am therefore incapable of asserting the rules.
I hate to say this, I really do...but if you don't like strong women - MOVE BACK TO YOUR OWN DAMN COUNTRY! I am not going to cringe & whine just because you think I should!
June 4, 2012
Bullies....why do you bother?
"Sexual harassment in the world of video gaming
Although I am not surprised by the findings of this article, the statistics nor the proof (via Fat, Ugly or Slutty website) I am surprised that men still feel justified in acting this way, and that they are angry/surprised/defensive when called upon it. When did it become permissible to use 'freedom of speech' as an excuse/reason to bully, sexually harass, sexually intimidate and spread hatred? In the 60's one of the things youth revolted against was restrictions, discrimination and social unbalance posed upon them by society. I doubt that those at Woodstock foresaw that their fight for freedom of speech, living and acceptance would lead to such behaviour.According to Wiki: Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior manifested by the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when the behavior is habitual and involves an imbalance of power. It can include verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed repeatedly towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability
There are many psychological reasons a person becomes a bully...
Jaana Juvonen, a UCLA professor of developmental psychology whose decade of groundbreaking research on mean kids and their hapless victims is changing the way parents and schools think about bullying.
2012 Cyber Bullying Tactics Posted by Dr. Michael Nuccitelli As a forensic psychologist with expertise in theoretical criminology and abnormal psychology, this writer has formulated a psychological, and criminological construct for the growing dimension known as cyberspace.
I was bullyed as a child, I in turn bullied my little brother. Having been on both sides of the fence I can tell you that being bullied and being a bully is a sad, miserable way to live your life. You are in a constant state of anger, vengence, guilt, and justification. In other words - it sucks....
May 1, 2012
Helping comeuppance along....
The aforementioned weasel who definitely needs his comeuppance is going to pay. The suite downstairs was in his roommates name as the dick doesn't have a job and hasn't any references. He and said roommate where going to be evicted because he kept smoking in the house. Well this depressed him so much that he went on a binge and drank the rent. Somehow this self-appointed 'Life Coach' (I kid you not) convinced her to take out TWO payday loans so that they could afford to move... They left in the middle of the month, in the middle of the week, in the middle of the day.
Since then we have been getting all sorts of bills, past notices and several 'Intent to Sue' notices as well. Needless to say they did not give the landlord a forwarding address. So being the upright and helpful citizen that I am, I took it upon myself to put all the information I could gather on said notices...His facebook page, his 'business name', his phone number & e-mail address. He has since deleted his facebook page, but is now on LinkedIn. So today when I saw yet another Intent to Sue, I called the Pay Day Loan place and gave them his name as her roommate and his LinkedIn addy...
Sometimes comeuppance needs a little help.....Muhahahahahaha
Since then we have been getting all sorts of bills, past notices and several 'Intent to Sue' notices as well. Needless to say they did not give the landlord a forwarding address. So being the upright and helpful citizen that I am, I took it upon myself to put all the information I could gather on said notices...His facebook page, his 'business name', his phone number & e-mail address. He has since deleted his facebook page, but is now on LinkedIn. So today when I saw yet another Intent to Sue, I called the Pay Day Loan place and gave them his name as her roommate and his LinkedIn addy...
Sometimes comeuppance needs a little help.....Muhahahahahaha
April 24, 2012
“You know nasty little men like you always get their comeuppance.” - The Mummy
There are many sayings and old wives tales about Lady Fate, Karma or cosmic justice. From Aesop’s fables to local legends there are tales of letting it play itself out. When I was younger the thought that I would be punished later on in life for wrongdoings done at the time seemed ridiculous. Of course looking back we can always see the patterns, and though I feel that many ascribe meaning or justification to events that really have none, there have been a few moments in my life when I know I am getting bitten in the ass by Fate and rightly so.
Much to my smug satisfaction there have also been times when those who have wronged me or mine have paid for it in spectacular ways. Most likely, and for the sake of Karma, I should feel badly for those people, but I don’t and faking seems worse than a lie.
How are these cosmic scales balanced? I have no idea, nor would I presume to answer. It’s hard to wait for cosmic justice, for Fate to finally hand someone their head. The desire to actively seek out retribution is a strong one, but I have found that Karma deals out punishments far nastier than I could imagine to those whom deserve it.
Obviously I am writing this because I badly wish to give some douche his well deserved kick. So I wait. Consoled by the fact that the bullies who made my childhood unbearable, live small pointless lives as drones in corporate hell; my ex, who cheated on me and brought said whore to my birthday party, ended up losing his job, his apartment and his jeep; and that a few of the angry bitter hateful women, you know the ones who work in offices everywhere, have been laid-off or fired.
And now I wait for the douche that lived downstairs, smoked in the house, swore at my daughter and tried to turn the landlord against my family to get his. Thankfully he was kicked out, but the fear he put in my little girl… It’s hard to wait.
July 28, 2009
Bad Chapter for the Kindle E-Book Reader
How very typical - two steps forward for the environment and the advancement of literacy / accessibility and then the great salivating pig of consumerism (Amazon or any large corp.) has to 'step-in' and *%#* it all up!! Always this is the way. Is it a coincidence that the books deleted were 1984 & Animal Farm?!?! I think the universe is trying to tell us something here people!!
Were is the line between individual privacy and media/marketing research?!? Apparently we allowed it to disappear when along came all the the gossip mongering and marketing research companies. 'It might lead to something better, bigger, newer...' regardless of the cost or environmental impact. We let these companies into our lives without questioning how it would change our perceptions. And those that cautioned and asked> where will this lead? should we be all consuming? is my neighbours business, my business? what about privacy? < they were shouted down and reviled for 'getting in the way of progress' *stupid*
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Were is the line between individual privacy and media/marketing research?!? Apparently we allowed it to disappear when along came all the the gossip mongering and marketing research companies. 'It might lead to something better, bigger, newer...' regardless of the cost or environmental impact. We let these companies into our lives without questioning how it would change our perceptions. And those that cautioned and asked> where will this lead? should we be all consuming? is my neighbours business, my business? what about privacy? < they were shouted down and reviled for 'getting in the way of progress' *stupid*
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July 25, 2009
US child abandonded for being raped
Cultural or not I fail to see how anyone could blame an 8 year old girl for her own rape by four boys all under the age of 14. This has got to be one of the most disgusting displays of in-humanity I have seen in quite some time....ask me now if there is any point in trying to 'save the world'?!?BBC News/America
December 7, 2008
love
'I love you, you're perfect. Now let me change everything about you' Why are humans so?
Interesting question and one I think I have an answer too.....I don't think that people go into a relationship wanting to change their partner - it's that once in one, they realize that this person isn't what they thought and rather than admit to being wrong - they try to change said partner to suit their own expectations.
The questions now is: Why do humans enter into relationships with people they want to change? That's easier to answer then you think. Most humans don't - only a truly selfish, calculating and manipulative person would do this (and if you know any like this - run away!) I have observed that the whole 'love is blind' thing is true - it has to do with pheromones and a hyper awareness of being with a new love interest. Since these emotions are pleasurable it's easier to overlook a potential partners 'flaws' and 'go with it' rather than realizing the truth of a miss-match and feeling let-down (or letting the other person down- expectations can be hell to live with). It takes far more courage to break it off with an ill-suited match then anyone gives credit for.
Now we have to ask: Why do humans choose to stay in unfulfilled relationships like this? FEAR - fear of being alone, unwanted, and left-out. This fear drives abused women to stay with the men who beat them, young women to marry men 20 years older than themselves (and vice versa), and couples to stay married 'for the sake of the children'. Fear of missing out on the chance that it could work.So.....Why can't humans accept people for who they are rather than trying to change them to suit? (See the above) Because of the myth that one is supposed 'know' when it's 'true love' and humans hate to be wrong; it takes time and effort to grow a relationship and many feel foolish to have spent all this time on nothing (which is idiocy- it's more foolish to stay with someone you can't love/accept as they are). We as a race always look to the future, which makes sense, one must plan to have a job and home to live in once one grows up - this requires schooling, loans and budgeting. For those who know they want children before they meet a potential partner, planning for a career and the ability to buy a home or at least support a child becomes paramount (unless 'living in the moment' is what gave one a child - in which case all bets are off). Being wrong after all those promises and planning is a huge let-down, one that humans will go to great lengths to avoid (denial anyone?).
In my experience acceptance of another person comes with the ability to see yourself and them in the here and now. NOT the 'when she's done school, we will be ...' or 'when he inherits...' or 'once she catches a break...'. Dreams are a beautiful thing to believe in, but reality is what governs day-to-day life (sounds cold, but then look at the divorce rate worldwide). Dreams and expectations tend to go hand-in-hand, and promises/plans become the future. Who wants a partner that clearly states: "I will never rise above being a cashier at the grocery store" or "I'll always be an office lackey" or "I'll always be fighting with my weight and lazy with no real intention of ever taking care of myself" or "I will always be chasing 'the dream' but never achieve it" (granted the 'grocery clerk' could be a happy and contented soul who is kind, generous and sweet natured and the 'office lackey' could be a marathoner who loves to travel, and doesn't want to responsibility/limitations/stress of being CEO).
What humans need to ask themselves is this: Will I be happy with this person if they stay as they are right now, in this situation - for the rest of their life? People do and can change it's true, having a partner who loves you can be inspirational, but at the end of the day one usually reverts back to 'automatic behaviours' (we can't help it, it's programmed into our psyche from childhood - not an excuse, just a fact). So could you love the person you are with (or wanting to be with) if they never changed? I suspect that many people would say no - then give a list of reasons (excuses) for why they will stay regardless - then spend years driving each other mad with disapproval, rejection and disappointment.
Humans admire the ones who take risks and lead, media promotes this, so 'being content as you are, where you are' isn't always acceptable (sad but true) and breaking it off with someone when you realize you can't accept them is critiqued and ridiculed. (I look at my life and wonder why anyone would accept me as I am now - my life is a mess of half-finished projects, scattered dreams and debt- who the heck wants that?) I believe that only those who are willing to really see themselves (whether disappointing or not) are the ones who can accept others as they are for who they are in the here and now.
Of course the universe is tricky and unpredictable - the only constant in the universe is change...lol..how's that for a curve ball?! Life is a messy chaotic thing that grows and fluxes....maybe the trick is knowing how to ride the waves of change and thrive in chaos - that's the one part of life I have mastered.
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Interesting question and one I think I have an answer too.....I don't think that people go into a relationship wanting to change their partner - it's that once in one, they realize that this person isn't what they thought and rather than admit to being wrong - they try to change said partner to suit their own expectations.
The questions now is: Why do humans enter into relationships with people they want to change? That's easier to answer then you think. Most humans don't - only a truly selfish, calculating and manipulative person would do this (and if you know any like this - run away!) I have observed that the whole 'love is blind' thing is true - it has to do with pheromones and a hyper awareness of being with a new love interest. Since these emotions are pleasurable it's easier to overlook a potential partners 'flaws' and 'go with it' rather than realizing the truth of a miss-match and feeling let-down (or letting the other person down- expectations can be hell to live with). It takes far more courage to break it off with an ill-suited match then anyone gives credit for.
Now we have to ask: Why do humans choose to stay in unfulfilled relationships like this? FEAR - fear of being alone, unwanted, and left-out. This fear drives abused women to stay with the men who beat them, young women to marry men 20 years older than themselves (and vice versa), and couples to stay married 'for the sake of the children'. Fear of missing out on the chance that it could work.So.....Why can't humans accept people for who they are rather than trying to change them to suit? (See the above) Because of the myth that one is supposed 'know' when it's 'true love' and humans hate to be wrong; it takes time and effort to grow a relationship and many feel foolish to have spent all this time on nothing (which is idiocy- it's more foolish to stay with someone you can't love/accept as they are). We as a race always look to the future, which makes sense, one must plan to have a job and home to live in once one grows up - this requires schooling, loans and budgeting. For those who know they want children before they meet a potential partner, planning for a career and the ability to buy a home or at least support a child becomes paramount (unless 'living in the moment' is what gave one a child - in which case all bets are off). Being wrong after all those promises and planning is a huge let-down, one that humans will go to great lengths to avoid (denial anyone?).
In my experience acceptance of another person comes with the ability to see yourself and them in the here and now. NOT the 'when she's done school, we will be ...' or 'when he inherits...' or 'once she catches a break...'. Dreams are a beautiful thing to believe in, but reality is what governs day-to-day life (sounds cold, but then look at the divorce rate worldwide). Dreams and expectations tend to go hand-in-hand, and promises/plans become the future. Who wants a partner that clearly states: "I will never rise above being a cashier at the grocery store" or "I'll always be an office lackey" or "I'll always be fighting with my weight and lazy with no real intention of ever taking care of myself" or "I will always be chasing 'the dream' but never achieve it" (granted the 'grocery clerk' could be a happy and contented soul who is kind, generous and sweet natured and the 'office lackey' could be a marathoner who loves to travel, and doesn't want to responsibility/limitations/stress of being CEO).
What humans need to ask themselves is this: Will I be happy with this person if they stay as they are right now, in this situation - for the rest of their life? People do and can change it's true, having a partner who loves you can be inspirational, but at the end of the day one usually reverts back to 'automatic behaviours' (we can't help it, it's programmed into our psyche from childhood - not an excuse, just a fact). So could you love the person you are with (or wanting to be with) if they never changed? I suspect that many people would say no - then give a list of reasons (excuses) for why they will stay regardless - then spend years driving each other mad with disapproval, rejection and disappointment.
Humans admire the ones who take risks and lead, media promotes this, so 'being content as you are, where you are' isn't always acceptable (sad but true) and breaking it off with someone when you realize you can't accept them is critiqued and ridiculed. (I look at my life and wonder why anyone would accept me as I am now - my life is a mess of half-finished projects, scattered dreams and debt- who the heck wants that?) I believe that only those who are willing to really see themselves (whether disappointing or not) are the ones who can accept others as they are for who they are in the here and now.
Of course the universe is tricky and unpredictable - the only constant in the universe is change...lol..how's that for a curve ball?! Life is a messy chaotic thing that grows and fluxes....maybe the trick is knowing how to ride the waves of change and thrive in chaos - that's the one part of life I have mastered.
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